Thursday, November 25, 2010

Why is your baby crying?

One of the things I wonder about is how would I know why my newborn baby is crying.   

I had that experience with my sisters’ babies – they would cry their lungs out but we would have no clue as to what it was that they wanted.  We would try feeding them, playing with them, carry them….. but they would still cry and cry…..  This was particularly bad during the first couple of months.  It was very frustrating and unnerving for all in the household!  I felt so helpless and I certainly don’t wish to feel that when my twins arrive! 

The other day one of my friends who heard of my pregnancy (and who now has a 4 month old baby) recommended that I check out Dunstan Baby Language -- Learn the universal language of newborn babies.  She said it really worked.  

It teaches you to hear exactly what your baby is communicatingAs a parent, you will be able to interpret your infant’s sounds and cries – and respond to their needs quickly and effectively. 
However this is most effective during the first 3 months.  Every newborn communicates from birth to 3 months using 5 distinct sounds that signal hunger, tiredness, need to burp, lower wind/gas and discomfort.  This is regardless of the language their parents speak.  It is not a learned language.  Rather, it is a natural way for every baby to express their physical needs.  

The Dunstan Baby Language was discovered by Patricia Dunstan.  She has also appeared on Oprah to talk about the baby language she discovered.  Here is an excerpt about Priscilla:
When Priscilla was a toddler, her parents discovered she had a photographic memory for sound. At age 4, she could hear a Mozart concert on the piano and play it back note for note.

Priscilla says her gift has helped her hear a special "second language" beyond English, allowing her to detect moods and even diagnose illnesses! "Other people might hear a note but I sort of get the whole symphony," Priscilla says. "So when someone's speaking, I get all this information that other people might not pick up."

That mysterious second language took on an astounding new meaning when Priscilla became a mother to her baby, Tom. "Because of my gift for sound, I was able to pick out certain patterns in his cries and then remember what those patterns were later on when he cried again," Priscilla says. "I realized that other babies were saying the same words."

This was all certainly music to my ears.  I bought the Dunstan Baby Language on DVD and made my family watch it so they will also understand what my babies are trying to tell us.  I can’t wait to listen to my babies’ cries and to respond to them properly.  If it helps me understand my baby better, it’s worth every penny I paid for it!
Check out the video here:

I'm going to be a mummy to twins!

I am about 6 weeks away from becoming a mother!  To twins!  When I first discovered that I was pregnant, I was overjoyed to say the least.  My husband and I will be bringing 2 new lives to this world and we know we will love them to bits.   As the months went by, I started getting anxious and worried.  This is my first pregnancy and I have NO CLUE how to take care of babies.  In fact, I have NEVER even carried a newborn in my life.  I always found them too fragile and feared hurting them.  Soon I will have 2 to take care of!  How will I cope?  How will I know what to do?  What if I did things wrongly?

So began my search for information on baby care – I read books after books (I have never read as much in my life!), hungrily surfed the internet and also spoke to many mothers (who are always willing to share).  There is a whole load of information out there and surprisingly (or not surprisingly), a lot of them are conflicting.  Some say let your baby cry, some say never let your baby cry.  In both scenarios, the mothers LOVE their babies and only want the BEST for their daughter/son.  And yet, their approaches can be so different.

As I digest the information and compare the different points of view, I formed some opinion on what I think makes sense.  After having spent all this time (and I will continue to spend time on this), I thought I should share what I have learnt.  Hence this blog.  Over time, I will also share with you whether what I have learnt, when put into practice, works.    
Do drop by every now and then so you can benefit from my efforts.  I would also love to hear from you if you have anything to share on understanding our precious little babies.